Tuesday, December 08, 2015

Anger Is Tough..............

I like reading To Save A Life & this is yet another great article...tip...tips....a lot to think about

Anger is tough to deal with. There are many excuses that we tell ourselves in order to rationalize our anger and not take responsibility for it. As hard as it is to admit, these excuses are really just lies we use to convince ourselves we are right and everyone else is wrong. These lies need to be debunked. So, I want to share four of those lies, and then apply the truths that can counter each one. Meditate on the truths and how you can apply them to your own life. Let me know how they work for you!

Lie #1: “If I don’t get angry, people will think I’m weak.”
Truth #1: The Lord says that His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Allow Him to take the weakness you currently experience and turn it into strength. Choosing your emotions shows strength. If you keep your emotions under control and act assertively, others will begin to see you as a person of strength instead of a person with unmanageable anger. This leads to an opportunity to share with others where the change they see in you in comes from. What a powerful witnessing tool!

Lie #2: “I shouldn’t keep my anger bottled up.”
Truth #2: You don’t have to keep your anger inside. However, you also don’t have to let your anger out in an aggressive manner. You can and should learn how to manage your anger. This may mean discerning when you should react, and learning how to react assertively rather than aggressively during those necessary times. This means that you are able to wisely distinguish between issues that need to be addressed and those that don’t. Remember: managing your anger is not the same as keeping your anger bottled up inside.

Lie #3: “Anger is healthy.”
Truth #3: Intense feelings such as anger will cause health problems, not resolve them. When someone becomes angry, they frequently experience bothersome physical and emotional symptoms. Is high blood pressure healthy? Is a high level of anxiety healthy? Of course not. However, many people experience these and other symptoms while angry. So, the truth is that anger is not healthy. Remembering this may help you work towards getting rid of your unhelpful anger (see Ephesians 4:31).

Lie #4: “I can’t help it if others make me angry.”
Truth #4: For many, this is the most difficult lie to face. The fact of the matter is that only you can control yourself. While the words and actions of others may trigger your anger, no one can “make” you mad. Try changing the way you think and speak about this. Instead of saying, “So and so made me mad”, try saying “I got angry with so and so.” Through this simple change, you are taking ownership of your anger instead of blaming someone else. This is truly a challenge but the outcome is well worth it.
I find the last one to be the toughest. What about you?

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