Thursday, October 21, 2010

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Wednesday Words

Detaching With Love:
Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. WE react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to each other, and the problem escalates.
When do we detatch? When we're hooked into a reaction of anger, guilt or shame. When we get hooked into a power-play -- an attempt to control or force others to do something they don't want to do. When the way we're reacting isn't helping the other person or solving the problem. When the way we're reacting is hurting us.
Often, it's time to detatch when detachemnt appears to be the least likely, or possible, thing to do.
The first step toward detachment is understanding that reacting & controlling don't help. The next step is getting peaceful -- gettin centered & restoring our balance.
Talk a walk. Leave the room. Go to a meeting. Take a long, hot bath. Call a friend. Call on God. Breathe deeply. Find peace. From that place of peace & centering will emerge an answer, a solution.

***Today I will surrender & trust that the answer is near.

OCTOBER - Breast Cancer Awareness Month

SMILE!!!



GOOD LUCK to a very dear, beautiful, strong & courageous friend who will be having surgery tomorrow!



You are my hero!!!! ALWAYS!! Thinking of you JJ!!!!!

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

Taking Care Of Ourselves

It's healthy, wise & loving to be considerate & responsive to the feelings & needs of others, That's different from care taking. Care taking is a self-defeating & certainly, a relationship-defeating behavior - a behavior that backfires & can cause us to feel resentful & victimized - because ultimatley, what we feel, want & need will come to the surface.

Some people seem to invite emotional care taking. We can learn to refuse the invitation. We can be concerned; we can be loving, when possible; but we can place value on our own needs & feelings too. Part of recovery means learning to pay attention to, & place importance on, wheat we feel, want & need, because to see that there are clear, predictable & usually undesirable consequences when we don't.

Be patient & gentle w/yourself as you learn to do this. Be understanding w/yourself when you slip back into the old behavior of emotional care taking & self-neglect.

But stop the cycle today. We do not have to feel responsible for others. We can learn to let ourselves feel good about taking responsibilities for our needs & feelings.

****TODAY, I WILL EVALUATE WHETHER I'VE SLIPPED INTO MY OLD BEHAVIOR OF TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANOTHER'S FEELINGS & NEEDS, WHILE NEGLECTING MY OWN. I WILL OWN MY POWER, RIGHT & RESPONSIBILITY TO PLACE VALUE ON MYSELF****

John Michael Montgomery 'Life's A Dance'



Life's A Dance

When I was fourteen I was falling fast
For a blue eyed girl in my homeroom class
Trying to find the courage to ask her out
Was like trying to get oil from a waterspout
What she would have said I can't say
I never did ask and she moved away
But I learned something from my blue eyed girl
Sink or swim you gotta give it a whirl

Life's a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don't worry about what you don't know
Life's a dance you learn as you go

The longer I live the more I believe
You do have to give if you wanna recieve
There's a time to listen, a time to talk
And you might have to crawl even after you walk
Had sure things blow up in my face
Seen the longshot, win the race
Been knocked down by the slamming door
Picked myself up and came back for more

Life's a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don't worry about what you don't know
Life's a dance you learn as you go

Life's a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don't worry about what you don't know
Life's a dance you learn as you go
Life's a dance you learn as you go
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow
Don't worry about what you don't know
Life's a dance you learn as you go

Life's a dance
Life's a dance
Life's a dance
Take a chance on love
Life's a dance
You learn as you go


**Yuo need to twirl around, get your feet straight from time to time, you need to step on some feet to learn.....enjoy the ride & don't worry, you'll learn as you go, I know I am!